The metaphor "1+1=3" in romance suggests that in a romantic partnership, two people create something greater together than they could alone. This "something" symbolizes the synergy, connection, and shared life stemming from their union.
Reflecting on this, as highlighted by mentor Richard Moss, can be revealing. At first glance, it might appear as an effort to dazzle with deep thought—a reflection of one's desire for depth. Yet, upon deeper reflection, the metaphor's true meaning emerges. It encourages a shift in how we view relationships, from a focus on the individual to a collective perspective of partnership.
Viewing the relationship as a "third energy" that both partners create makes it easier to understand and accept each other's flaws or issues as mirrors or complements of our own, leading to growth rather than judgment. This outlook fosters responsibility for what each person contributes to the relationship and the importance of nurturing the shared energy.
For instance, managing one's stress and fostering peace can enhance the relationship's dynamic, highlighting the need to care for the synergy, the "third" in the relationship. This mindset helps partners move beyond a juvenile focus on their needs, which could stem from unresolved issues or unmet childhood needs.
A practice for deepening understanding of this "third consciousness" is meditation or pondering the question: "What does our relationship desire?" Acknowledging that any relationship intrinsically involves three entities encourages a complex interaction of energies and perspectives, enriching the partnership.
Delving into the notion of a separate entity emerging from intimate relationships is a journey towards deeper insight and healing. It invites individuals to look beyond themselves and consider their union's collective spirit. Adopting this perspective can open new avenues for enhancing and deepening intimate connections.